Many young couples are curious what the secret to a long and happy relationship is. In the last few years, the sanctity of marriage has come under attack and scrutiny by those that no longer believe in the principles that the Bible laid out for us many years ago. There is a spiritual battle being waged against families and the rate of divorce and broken homes have increased tremendously. The truth of the matter is that there isn’t some magical secret that couples married for fifty plus years only hold the key too. The answer to a long and successful union between a husband and wife begins with bowed heads and a servants heart. 

        My husband and I are far from perfect. We both have flaws and are aware of each other’s imperfections. We have had our fair share of highs and lows but remain determined to stand together in a world that is continually threatening faith and marriages. Several years ago, we began praying with each other in the mornings. No matter how busy our day may become we always make it a priority to lift our praise to the Lord together. Normally, my husband will lead the prayer. He begins by thanking the Lord for all of our blessings and then asks the Lord to supply all of our needs. He ends it by covering our marriage and other areas in prayer.  We have been continually blessed in our marriage and we feel as if the Lord has heard and answered many of our prayers!

        Prayer is a powerful tool and is essential to any healthy relationship. Not only does it bring you more close to God but it brings you closer together as a couple too! By making it a prime focus, you can turn your marriage into a testimony of your faith. Soon, people will be curious what your secret to a blissful marriage is! And you can simply tell them that, “A couple that prays together, Stays together!”



image      When football season begins, my husbands inner man-fan comes out! There’s a whole lot of jumping, shouting, celebrating, and sulking that goes along with being married to a hardcore football fanatic. When we were first married, I refused to be one of those know, the football widows. The wives who lose their husbands for several months out of the year and when January or February rolls around you’re like, “Oh, hey! Where have you been hiding?” I didn’t want to be the one who didn’t know the difference between a punt or a fumble. Or the one who couldn’t care less if their team just made the biggest play in college football history. I couldn’t accept the idea that my husband could enjoy something so intensely and me not share in one of his life passions. So, when J and I married, I made a secret pact with myself that I would learn absolutely everything I could about this sport that my husband so deeply enjoyed.

    When we were younger, I didn’t know the first thing about sports. It was a subject that was completely foreign to me although I was born into a football family in a state that houses the biggest rivalry in the South. I would have rather done just about anything else other than watch a bunch of burly men hitting each other in the heads and running down the field with a ball. Still, I wanted to be able to share in my husbands excitement each year. So, when J watched football, I watched it too. And the more I watched..the more I came to enjoy it! It became fun for me. I began learning all the teams, their mascots, and their best players. I could even tell you who kicked a field goal or scored a touchdown while tuned in to a game.

   Years later, I don’t dread football season. I embrace it as a season that brings my husband and I closer together as a couple.  Marriage is similar to football in many aspects. You and your husband are a team hand picked by the Greatest Coach in history! Marriage takes a ton of hustle and determination but if you remain focused on winning with your spouse the fruits of yours efforts will pay off greatly. 

     Our team isn’t doing to hot this season. In fact, we’ve lost nearly as many games as we’ve won. But win or lose, I’ll be cheering at each game with my man by my side. I vowed to love him during all seasons of life and around here that includes football season!

image   Ladies: whether it’s football, hunting, boxing or whatever it is your guy is “in to” I encourage you to learn what it is they enjoy!